“I guess I thought if I prayed about it, I would magically feel better and suddenly have a group of friends with whom I could share my heart and there’d be a rainbows and unicorns.”
I woke up this morning still feeling very melancholy. It seems the last couple of weeks I’ve been experiencing a lot of ups and downs, and I find myself wondering
“God, where are you in all of this? Why are you leaving me alone? Can’t you hear me?”
I thought if I prayed about it, I would magically feel better and suddenly have a group of friends with whom I could share my heart and there’d be a rainbows and unicorns. This morning as I was scrolling through Facebook before I got out of bed, God sent me a message. Yes, it’s true – God sent me a message on Facebook. No, I’m not crazy, at least not now. I believe that God can speak to us through other people sometimes, and this morning he spoke to me through Brene’ Brown.
“I thought faith would say, ‘I’ll take away the pain and discomfort’, but what it ended up saying was, ‘I’ll sit with you in it.'” Brene’ Brown
You can listen to her 6 minute message here.
Another quote that really spoke to me this week was from author Lysa TerKeurst (I have never read any of her books, I just follow her on Facebook and I like her quotes. She is on my list of books to read)
“How to overcome that seemingly impossible issue… pray more words about it than you speak.”
I find that I’ve been praying about things, but not an intense, fervent, journal for hours, pour-my-heart-out, fall-on-my-face prayer. I’ve been thinking about things, things have been on my mind, and when they come to mind, I’ve said a little prayer.
That is not the way I need to be praying about things.
Prayers on-the-go are not the same as deep conversations with God.
Just as a text to a friend is not the same as an hour-long phone call. Or a message on Facebook isn’t the same as a handwritten card or letter. Or a “how are you doing?” as you pass one another in the morning isn’t the same as a heart-to-heart conversation over a cup of coffee.
It’s no wonder I sometimes feel that God has forgotten me in this move. It seems I have also forgotten how to have a deep relationship with Him. So I ask myself, what am I afraid of? Why am I avoiding heart-to-hearts with God? And deep inside, I know the answer.
He’s asking me to do hard things. I can feel that nudging in my heart and I keep trying to distract myself. I stick to prayers-on-the-go so I don’t have to listen.
He’s asking me to step out of my comfort zone.
He’s urging me to reach out in grace and love to people in my life who have been unloving to me.
He’s asking me to be patient. It took years to build the purposeful relationships that I left in Vancouver. It will take years to build new ones.
He’s asking me to remember the commonality of suffering in people around me, when I selfishly just want to focus on my suffering. Everyone wants to experience happiness and avoid pain. He wants me to love those around me, and remember that everyone has a story, and every story matters.
He’s asking me not to wait for other people to come to me, but for me to reach out in love towards others. And that puts me in a vulnerable position. What if I’m rejected? And selfishly, what if it’s inconvenient to me?
So, I commit to prayer this Holy Week. I commit to real prayer, kind of prayer that builds relationships. The kind of prayer that restores me and my heart. The kind of prayer where I don’t just pour out all my feelings and tell God what I think He should do, but the kind of prayer that sits quietly and listens, which is so hard for me.
And I’ll remember that in the discomfort, in the loneliness, in the hard things, in the quiet listening,
I wonder how we got to the point of thinking God is going to remove everything that makes us uncomfortable. I see too many posts about how “you miracle is about to happen” which is a setup for an unrealistic expectation. “I’m believing God for (fill in the blank” is another one. We have lost the ability to pray like Jesus prayed. Thank you for this reminder that God calls us to be uncomfortable so we can get more comfortable with Him.
Stan, I think it’s human nature to just want to feel better and stop hurting. We forget that pain has a purpose. And yes, the ‘prosperity gospel’ teaching blurs that picture, too.
Thank you for sharing the deep thoughts of your heart. So much truth